If you’ve moved in with parents or other family, you’re not alone! *According to a recent survey by the National Endowment for Financial Education, 40 percent of Americans ages 18 to 39 either live with their parents or have done so in the recent past. After living in Des Moines for nearly seven years, nine months ago, my husband, 4 year old daughter, and I moved in with my mom, step-dad, and twenty-something brother.
Our reasons for moving back to the Cedar Rapids area were largely our aging parents and the need for a close family support system. Moving was not a simple decision, it meant finding new jobs, selling our home, and leaving many of our friends. In an effort to make our move easier my parents graciously offered to allow us to live with them until we could get settled.
- Have a plan. Before you move in sit down with your parents, discuss how long you think you might be living with them and who will be paying for what. Discussing these topics in advance can make a big difference for all involved.
- Remember who’s boss. Your parents are doing you a favor, it’s their house, be appreciative! Let Dad control the television remote.
- Contribute. Pay rent if you can, buy groceries, cook dinner, do chores, and wash your own laundry.
- Communicate. Be respectful, if you’re going to be late for dinner let them know. If there are children involved discuss beliefs on discipline and nutrition.
- Alone time. Plan some time away from your parents during the week; this will give them and you a chance to unwind.